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Anyone else think Lauren OBrien and David Dave Bettenburg kinda look like Pam and Roy fromThe Office?
But OBrien and Bettenburg have not been strangers to strain in their relationship.
I dont think I realized all those conversations were happening behind my back.
In the pods, you wondered whether you or Molly were being more delulu.
It was interesting to watch that back.
But honestly, Im so focused on my own relationship with Dave.
I knew he was dating other people, and I was dating other people toward the end, too.
I didnt know what he and Mollys connection looked like.
I know now, even from the last year of having conversations with her about it.
How often did Molly come up once you were engaged?
We really did not talk about Molly when we were in Honduras, or even coming back to Minneapolis.
From engagement on, it really felt like it was Dave and I.
What made you fall in love with Dave?A lot of things.
We talked about financial goals we had, and how to integrate our lives into our extended families lives.
A lot of our core visions for our future looked really similar.
He was really funny a lot of the time, and I value banter in a romantic relationship.
There was an element of Dave and I doing that together that kept things light.
He was also very validating.
Dave said in a confessional in Honduras that he could tell you werent ready to have sex.
Your brain has to click and make the connection.
I do remember that first night being like,What is happening?
What was that first day like for you?
They were waiting on the edge of their seats.
They had a lot of questions, and I was genuinely excited.
I just didnt understand it.
You described your relationship with this other guy as a friends-with-benefits situation.
What makes you think that?Me and him had never once talked about anything beyond a friends-with-benefits situation.
We never had serious conversations about that or much in general.
I was so confused where it came from.
He also reached out and asked to talk.
I texted him back, and he was like, But do you wanna talk in person?
]Those are the things that are jumping out to me.
What did he text you?It was pretty much, Hey, you moved into the building.
What was that like?Not fun.
It was just hard to … [Sighs, pauses.]
I dont know how to answer that one.
Did he know that you were going onLove Is Blind?He did.
He knew the entire two months we were talking.
What was his reaction when you told him about it?He had no problem with it.
He was excited for me.
He was like, Thats a cool, once-in-a-lifetime thing to do.
We would interact here and there throughout the day.
We both had remote jobs, so we were kind of in and out of the apartment.
Before the day you were set to meet Daves friends, did any of them reach out to you?
Or had you reached out to any of them?Nope.
No one reached out, and I didnt reach out.
I respected Daves approach at the time.
I usually give up at the six- to nine-month mark.
This was me fighting for probably the first time for a relationship I valued and saw myself pursuing.
I was trying to do things differently.
I just really wanted to have my person from this.
